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By Adrian Klaphaak on March 15, 2012

This is a wonderfully articulated essay by William Deresiewicz about finding your own path, living a meaningful life, and everything that gets in the way. Enjoy it… you’ve probably been feeling the same way.

By Adrian Klaphaak on October 20, 2011

I see a lot of email subject lines and marketing materials that claim to reveal a "secret." I find this trend a bit annoying because the "secret" that is revealed is usually something that I already know. So, I was careful in making the claim to share, "The Big Secret To Finding Your Path." In my experience this secret is a big one and it isn't common knowledge or practice. And, most of the people that seek our guidance at A Path That Fits are also unaware of this secret and have been for a large part of their life. I was in the dark for a long time, too.

So... What's the big secret to finding your path? The secret is that finding your path comes from within. It comes from you discovering who you already are and then translating your uniqueness into a career. It doesn't come from thinking about what careers are out there and how to fit yourself into a career. The secret is to let your path organically unfold from discovering who you are. By discovering important parts of yourself such as your strengths, passions, values, personality, essence, and purpose, you let the career path that fits who you are naturally emerge.

Still not convinced this is a big secret? Okay. Consider this... What is the first thing that a person (possibly you) asks themselves when their career begins to stagnate and they start feeling the need to find a new career path? It's usually some version of, "What should I do?" Or, "What am I going to do?" The thing about these questions is they lead you to look outside of yourself at the options you perceive for yourself in the world around you. Those questions take you away from yourself and focus your attention outside of you. The secret is to look inside. The real question to be asking yourself is, "Who am I?" So pause for a moment and ask yourself, "Who am I?" You might find it a confronting question and a challenging one to answer. But, I think it is the most powerful question you can be asking yourself if you want to find a path that fits.

When you have taken the time to discover who you are, finding the right career path will be less of a mystery. And, you don't have to do it alone. Our coaching programs, retreats, and workshops guide you through a process of self-discovery that helps you answer the question, "Who Am I," and translate your uniqueness into a career path.
If this article resonates with you and you are ready to find your path, consider joining us on our first ever "Discover Your Career Calling" Retreat in Bali. It may only happen once and we are putting a lot of heart into creating an amazing experience for everyone that participates.

By Adrian Klaphaak on April 8, 2010

My one month experiment working remotely from the rice fields...

I'm in Bali for the month of January, living into my long held dream of working remotely from Southeast Asia. I have had a vision of building a "second life" for myself here since my first trip through Southeast Asia five years ago. This month in Bali is my first experiment with what it's like to live and work in a very different reality. So far it has been just that – a very different reality.

I rented a house for the month in a village called Penestanan, just outside of Ubud. It is awesome in the old sense of the word – full of awe and beauty. The village is dripping with green, effortlessly growing in and around all of the homes. Nature is king here, and there is very little separation or attempt to control it. The people live in it and move with it. When the monsoon sweeps through in the afternoons, everyone yields and brings their already slow pace to a pause. They don't fight it. They stay in the flow. Seeing this level of fluidity reminds me how I sometimes resist what is happening around me, instead fighting to make what I want happen. That doesn't work here. What does seem to work is staying in the flow. Always a good lesson.

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By Adrian Klaphaak on October 15, 2009

So you say you want to make a change?

In my work with clients and in my own life, I commonly see that there is an internal shift that catalyzes the change that people want. Desired changes such as a new career, more meaningful relationship, or life balance often require an internal shift like letting go of a limiting belief, stepping into a new way of being, or confronting a long held fear.

While this presents an exciting opportunity for growth, it's also a place where people commonly get stuck. It's easy to want change and fantasize about what it would be like, but how can significant change actually happen by doing what you have done and being who you have been up to this point? I don't think it can. Neither did Einstein. As he put it, "We cannot solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them."

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By Adrian Klaphaak on February 4, 2009

I appreciate how Obama is honest about the current state of our economy and positive about our ability to create change. I am sure he has doubts but he doesn’t let them win over what is possible. Are we, as individual Americans, doing the same? Do you let your doubts win over what you believe is possible? I came across this story that illustrates the power we each have to choose how we focus our attention.

“Good Dog, Bad Dog”

A Native American Chief had been sitting at the edge of his village for days, staring out at the empty plains in deep contemplation. The other members of the tribe began to notice and finally one of the elders approached the Chief and asked him, "What's wrong?"

After a long silence, the Chief turned his head and looked up at the elder. "Inside of me there are two fighting dogs. The bad dog is greedy, mean and fearful. The good dog is happy, loving and peaceful. The bad dog fights the good dog all day."

The elder asked the Chief, "Which dog wins?"

The Chief replied, "Whichever dog I feed the most."

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By Adrian Klaphaak on December 21, 2007

I have a powerful true story of The Christmas Truce to share from World War I. The story serves as a wonderful reminder that we all have the ability to call a truce and enjoy a moment of peace. This is a great way to bring closure to the past year and create space and energy for expanded possibilities in the new year. In my case, I will make the effort to call a truce between my heart and my head and cultivate peace within.

Part I: True Historical Account of the Christmas Truce

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You are standing up to your knees in the slime of a waterlogged trench. It is the evening of 24 December 1914 and you are on the dreaded Western Front.

All is quiet when jovial voices call out from both friendly and enemy trenches. Then the men from both sides start singing carols and songs. Next come requests not to fire, and soon the unthinkable happens: you start to see the shadowy shapes of soldiers gathering together in no-man's land laughing, joking and sharing gifts.

Plucking up your courage, you haul yourself up and out of the trench and walk towards the foe...

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By Adrian Klaphaak on November 21, 2007

A friend recently told me this wonderful story and I am excited to share it with all of you. I hope you enjoy the story and my words about gratitude that follow.

Part I: The Story

A boat docked in a tiny Mexican village. An American tourist complimented the Mexican fisherman on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took him to catch them.

"Not very long," answered the Mexican.

"But then, why didn't you stay out longer and catch more?" asked the American.

The Mexican explained that his small catch was sufficient to meet his needs and those of his family.

The American asked, "But what do you do with the rest of your time?"

"I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, and take a siesta with my wife. In the evenings, I go into the village to see my friends, have a few drinks, play the guitar, and sing a few songs. I have a full life."

The American interrupted, "I have an MBA from Harvard and I can help you! You should start by fishing longer every day. You can then sell the extra fish you catch. With the extra revenue, you can buy a bigger boat."

"And after that?" asked the Mexican.

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By Adrian Klaphaak on October 19, 2007

I went on my first solo backpacking trip this summer into the High Sierras. I spent four days and three nights at 8,000 ft with myself, the wilderness, and the fears that I brought with me. It was a meaningful trip on many levels and an excellent education on the subject of fear.

It baffles me that we spend decades learning everything about nothing but learn nothing about our most basic human experiences. This blog is an insufficient attempt at investigating our relationship to fear. It's a start, but the only real education is possible from each of us consciously experiencing our fears.

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By Adrian Klaphaak on July 24, 2007

I've recently been through a particularly challenging time in my life. And I am still moving through it. Above all else, I discovered the value of "being with" everything that I experienced - the happiness and sadness and everything in between.

People who know me well, know that in the past I have sometimes overlooked and failed to acknowledge my true feelings. We're all guilty of it; I just happen to be calling myself on it in a very public way. But it really is true for all of us to some degree. We all have times where we shut down, retreat, or avoid (consciously and unconsciously) the hardest and most painful feelings, emotions, and experiences. This entry is about the practice of "being with".

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By Adrian Klaphaak on March 30, 2007

I believe that we all have a path that fits who we are and what we want. We also have a unique way of living and being on our path that optimizes our potential and effectiveness. It's not just what we do but also how we do it. Finding this path and living it allows each of us to express our natural gifts and create unparalleled value for ourselves and others.

Unfortunately there is rarely support for the process of finding your path. School stresses academic prowess over self-knowledge and personal development. It's seemingly more important to get a successful job than a job you love. Society gives us the message that if we are cool and successful, we will be happy.

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